I told a coworker the other day that Claire read the entire Green Eggs and Ham book by Dr Seuss. I said we were impressed and praised her accordingly. We got into a discussion about our generation (Y, millennial) and how as kids we were always given participation awards. This led to the sense of entitlement attributed to our generation. I inferred that because we were raised that way we will also raise our kids that way and I think that’s a good thing. I mentioned that one of the best gifts I can give my kids is unconditional love and support. If they know above all else that their parents are proud of them they will have the courage to do great things.
I got a lot of inspiration from a particular post on the Single Dad Laughing blog. Dan Pearce says in his post “You Just Broke Your Child. Congratulations.” several things that I wholeheartedly agree with. They are worth mentioning. In fact, the entire article is worth reading, monthly.
1. “I get the power a dad has in a child’s life, and in a child’s level of self-belief. I get that everything I ever do and ever say to my son will be absorbed, for good or for bad.”
2. “a child’s entire sense of value can revolve around what they see in your face when you first see them”
3. “…a child is what you tell them they are.”
4. “Everything you say or don’t say will impact their ability, success, and happiness throughout their entire lives.”
The whole article reinforced my method of parenting. Continually offer love and praise. Rarely show anger and never yell. Smile, be thankful, and love every time you see them. Let them play on their own. Get on the floor and play with them. Be interested in many things so they are interested in many things. Be happy and kind to everyone. Say please and thank you.
We often get wrapped up in work, chores, dinner, etc. and forgot how good our lives are and how lucky we are to have such great kids.
Over the weekend we hiked the Horsetail Falls Loop in the Columbia Gorge. This fairly short hike packs in three separate waterfalls and a few gorge views. It has some elevation gain and even a peek into Oneonta Gorge. The trail was quite rocky and we had to hold the girls hands often to navigate the rough terrain. Here we are in the parking lot with Horsetail Falls in the background.
The trail passes behind these falls. We decided the cave was a good place to stop for snacks.
After the hike we had a picnic in the warm car. After the peek at Oneonta we can’t wait to explore it during the summer.
This is a book everyone should read. The relevance is outstanding considering it was written in 1962. The dangers of pesticides and herbicides cannot be overlooked in our current Monsanto based food system. Rachel Carson outlines the dangers of chemical warfare on our planet and how so called “safe for human” poisons often end up hurting people, animals, and the very plants they claim to protect. A common result of herbicides and pesticides is sterility. It has been documented hundreds of times in bird species. It is also well documented that these poisons build up in the body of all animals.
In the natural food chain the big fish eats the smaller fish and, along with it consumes the poisons carried by the smaller fish. The process repeats itself until the poisons build up to a fatal amount. At the top of the food chain, we should be very worried about this fact. But far before the toxins reach a lethal dose the poisons start affecting biological systems. One of the first affected is the reproductive system. Massive populations of birds across the country have been wiped out because they can no longer reproduce. It may be just a matter of time before these effects reach humans. The movie Children of Men is about an infertile world. After reading this book, the movie doesn’t seem like such a stretch.
The book gives examples of government supported programs that were supposed to kill bugs endangering a crop. After one program failed Rachel had this to say:
“It is an outstanding example of an ill-conceived, badly executed, and thoroughly detrimental experiment in the mass control of insects, an experiment so expensive in dollars, in destruction of animal life, and in loss of public confidence in the Agricultural Department that it is incomprehensible that any funds should still be devoted to it.”
More and more I could say this about the FDA as well. These agencies are put in place to protect our food supply and ultimately us as consumers. It seems like these days they are in place to protect the profits of agri-business and corporate farming.
Rachel combats these pesticide programs with examples of species control using natures methods. For example, introducing a predator for an invasive, crop-killing species. These natural methods have proven far superior. She explains that nature has had millennia to perfect itself.
“The balance of nature is not a status quo; it is fluid, ever shifting, in a constant state of adjustment. Man, too, is part of this balance. Sometimes the balance is in his favor; sometimes–and all too often through his own activities–it is shifted to his disadvantage.”
This book focuses on the disadvantage of pesticides wiping out beneficial bugs along with the bad ones. But, unfortunately, this is a valid statement for environmental impacts as well. We are starting to see the balancing of nature almost daily as huge storms tear countries apart. Nature is adjusting to the pollution we are creating. The balance of added CO2 in the atmosphere is violent storms across the globe.
Both with pollution and chemical control, the effects are slow to materialize. By the time we know something is wrong, it may be too late.
I picked about 10 potatoes from our garden today to add to a roast for dinner. We planted four red variety potatoes this Spring and I picked about 1.5 plants worth today. A couple of the potatoes were about baseball size ranging down to a couple about ping pong ball sized. In other garden news I picked the first of five Gala apples on our espalier tree yesterday. It was really good. I also picked a pear about a week ago and two are still on the tree.
With the beginning of Kindergarten for Claire on September 3rd I made a change myself. I stopped playing mindless video games. These are the games that don’t have an ending. The ones you check on throughout the day and play whenever you have five minutes to spare. The problem is that time adds up. Even a few minutes in the morning and a few in the evening make a difference. I can spend that time in a hundred more productive ways, so I quit cold turkey. The thought of quitting them first came up in church. It was during the topic of idolatry. While I don’t think it was that bad it got me thinking. Did these games control me? Was I checking in on them because they were waiting for me? I didn’t like that feeling. I want to be in control of my time. Also, habits is what make you, good or bad. I want to build myself with good habits and video games like that are not on my way to a happy life.
In an effort to kick start this blog again I am trying a new angle. I want to write about the adventures of being a dad. Some will be actual adventures like hiking or camping while others will be more figurative along the lines of gardening or working on the house. I will also include my personal adventures with photographing and reading, a couple of my favorite things. To start things off I will flash back a couple months to our road trip through Oregon and California.